Tuesday, November 25, 2014

What We Talk About When We Talk About Race

My son and I have an ongoing conversation about racism. We have discussed the horrors of slavery, war, and the holocaust. He knows that he has been born an American white boy, with an accompanying privilege that, as he has pointed out, “isn’t fair.” Why will he be treated differently, better, than many of his friends? I can’t pretend to understand the types of fear, hatred, and ignorance that make this true, but I explain it the best I can. It’s incomprehensible to an eight-year-old and incomprehensible to his mother. 

We have talked about the current reality that our friends and family who look differently or worship differently or love differently are systematically devalued and marginalized. As always, he points out that this “isn’t fair.” We are angry together. 

Because of his Jewish last name and heritage, he hears that there will be times when he is singled out, treated differently, and judged. But still he is a white boy and will not be considered suspicious by simply walking down the street. And that’s “not fair.”

We will continue our dialogue. He will know that with privilege comes power and with power, responsibility. I will lead by example. My prayer for him is that he will give voice to the voiceless and speak up in the face of discrimination. I pray for him to be an agent of change in a world that “isn’t fair.”

Monday, November 24, 2014


"Tell me about the game, Bob. Was it exciting?"

"Yeah. The LA Galaxy won, one to nothing. This one main guy from the Galaxy did this awesome goal where he faked the goalie out and then kicked it to the opposite side and it went in. And you know what else?"

"Tell me."

"It turns out I'm really good at making fart noises with my mouth."

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Thankful Tree

I am thankful for...
my house
my derpy stuff

"This a great list, Bob. What's that last one mean? 'Derpy stuff'?'

"It means cruddy stuff."

"What cruddy stuff are we talking about?"

"I don't know. I heard someone say it at school."

Friday, November 21, 2014

In With The New

Bob said he was ready for a more "grown up" set of sheets and a blanket. The Star Wars ones are now living in the linen closet. Sigh. Mr. Rosenberg is certain that they will be requested again after the release of the next Star Wars movie. I'm not so sure. If it's ridiculous to let new sheets make you sort of sad then, I am ridiculous. 

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Dave The Chrysalis: Day 10

"Bob, have you checked on Dave today?"

"Yeah. He's still green and hanging there. He seems okay."


"Plus I think Teddy likes kicking back with him."

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Jingle All The Way

"Mom? Did you notice the Christmas song playing in Rite Aid?"

"I did."

"What's your favorite Christmas song?"

"Let It Snow, the Steve Lawrence and Eydie Gorme version. What's yours?"

"I don't know. Jingle Bells?"

"Good one."

"Mom? Can we put the car radio on that station that only plays Christmas music? I find it really relaxing."